FOF #1011 – People Are Not for Hitting

Jun 24, 2009 · 72967 views

Cat Jefcoat, Marc Felion and Fausto Fernós

President Obama has declared- “look unless, we fix what is broken in our current health care system, everybody’s health care will be in jeopardy. Reform is not a luxury, its a necessity.”

Today we’re talking to Cat Jefcoat, director of the Lesbian Community Care Project, a program at Howard Brown. She’s knee deep in the health care issues for all the gays.

Cat is working with Feast of Fun’s Jim Pickett to help make sure Obama’s reform includes gay folks by co-chairing the National LGBTI Health Summit, a four day conference to build community networks and share ideas.

The summit will cover an array of topics including the aging of the Stonewall generation, new HIV prevention technologies, intimate partner violence, transgender health care, biphobia, body image, club drugs, anti-smoking initiatives, “what vaginas want,” sexual racism, bareback sex, Qigong, yoga and meditation.

Listen as we talk about the hot news and trends that shape your world:

My mom's bumper sticker: "People are Not for Hitting (and children are people too) Celebrity blogger Perez Hilton continues to be in the eye of a controversial storm with his very public fight with Black Eye Peas singer that escalated into verbal attacks and punches thrown.

Many are applauding the physical violence against the blogger as if he he deserved it because he ridicules celebrities and because of his outrageous persona.
• Was the punch aimed to shut Perez up about’s sexuality?
• Why is there so much hate on Perez, yet so little scrutiny over
• Does the public’s response set a terrible precedence where any any blogger, journalist, or media personality can be physically attacked for offending others?
• Where is the love?

As my mother always said: “People are not for hitting, and children are people too.”

Thank Goodness for Rachel Maddow Fabulous new blog: Top Hot Butches – celebrates the stone hard butch women. Will there ever be a sexy sissy site coming soon for the gays?

Steve Jobs is back at Apple and the Commodore 64 virtual iPhone app gets rejected

Mormon woman organizes a petition to soften the Mormon’s stance on gays.

The European Union begs people to please not eat your pet horse.

And sadly, Tonight Show Sidekick and ubiquitous product spokesman Ed McMahon died at the age of 86. Thank you for making it look so easy.

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  1. DONN KAMM says:

    Are you guys finally done being apologists for the douchebag Perez Hilton? I scream at my Ipod more than I should every time you two defend him and say people are jealous “because he has a successful blog”. NOOOOOOOO. He is a douchebag. I can actually imagine you defending Hitler if he had a successful blog. HILTON IS A DOUCHEBAG.

    • Uh-oh, Nazi refrence in argument! Has this run it’s course!?

      Click here to learn about Godwin’s law

      Thanks for sharing your strong opinion on this blogger, but even if you really, really hate him, he still doesn’t deserve to be punched in the face. But I can imagine that it would feel good to see someone who’s insulted the celebrities you love to see them get socked.

      From where I see it, it unnerves me to see people cheering for a gay man to get beaten. Even a controversial person like Perez.

  2. Marc Felion says:

    Sorry Donn, I’m not going to relent. No one deserves to be hit. They tried to silence or control his voice and I can’t abide that. Yes he called someone a faggot but what are you going do, hit every person who offends you? Where does it stop? You gonna start burning books that you disagree with? It’s a slippery slope.

  3. Nidocamen says:

    Fausto, I completely agree with you on tatoos and piercings and stuff. Sometimes, I admit, they can look hot on somebody else. But personally, I am free of body-modifications and am proud of it. In that way, I guess I’m still a virgin LOL :-) Great show today!

  4. Rhea says:

    Thanks for the Top Hot Butches website link. Wow…

  5. Rhea says:

    Also, big kudos to Kat for fighting the good fight in the land of Lincoln.

    Up here in Canada, where we’ve already achieved marriage equality, we’re still light years behind when it comes to caring for our gay and lesbian elders in their later life, and educating health care providers in the fact that queer men and women have particular health issues that their straight counterparts may not have to deal with. *And* we have free health care!

    America, once you’ve achieved marriage equality and universal health care for everyone, please don’t become complacent– keep fighting the good fight.

  6. TrickyToro says:

    Cat or Kat (both spellings above) was delightful! I really appreciate the Perez/violence conversation. Nice to know I’m not on crazy pills since I seem to be in the minority when it comes to speaking out against physical violence.

    If I had $1 or even a quarter for everytime someone told me I’d be much more attractive without all my tattoos I’d be rich. It was not till much later in life that I began to understand my extreme compulsion to heavily tatoo myself. And when I was much younger I pierced myself here and there. I noticed while living in Manchester in the UK that kids faces looked like pin cushions. My psychologist roommate suggested there was a correlation between hight rates of abuse in the home. But, I know hundreds of well adjusted people for whom its not a reclamation of the body kind of thing.

    • Thanks for CAT-ching that spelling error TrickyToro!

      Here’s an update — Will.i.Am. is sharing the love, kind of. The healing begins, hopefully.

      Here’s his statement, courtesy of (another celebrity blog that draws stuff on people’s faces, but I guess doesn’t dislike Fergies latest single:

      I will not continue to comment specifically on the incident that happened in Toronto last weekend… But I would hate for my silence to be misconstrued… I do not condone harassment or violence of any kind…

      No one deserves physical abuse…
      And no one deserves verbal abuse…
      No one deserves that…

      Everyone needs to be respected…
      And no ones name should be slandered in the name of hate and disrespect…
      And fyi…”not every black man is a thug”…

      As far as character allegations made against myself,
      The members of the Black Eyed Peas,
      And members of our management…
      I believe that the truth will speak for itself once the details of the events are fully presented.

      Hateful slurs…
      Racial or gay should not be used as verbal weapons to provoke violence…

      Let us all learn from the events that happened in Toronto…
      That situation has already taken valuable time, energy,
      And attention away from more important,
      And in some cases, devastating issues happening in our world.
      Thank you…

  7. jimberly says:

    I am not a big fan of physical violence, but sorry, I would slap PH if he got too close. He’s really an asshole — and I know it’s wrong to hurt, but I want to, I do…. That said, I hope faithful FoFers will join us at the 2009 National LGBTI Health Summit – and talk about ways to grow and heal our communities rather than get caught up in pseudo-celebrity fake drama….

  8. davmorgan says:

    I don’t agree with violence of any kind. But Perez needs to quit playing the victim and take responsibility for his actions. Words have consequences.

    Mark, I’m not sure I’m following where you’re coming from re: people who dislike Perez being more likely to be single.

  9. So where do you draw the line? Should Kathy Griffin get punched? Howard Stern? Us?

    The point Marc is making is that relationships are all about compromise, getting along and not attacking your partner because he says something that upsets you.

    Remember folks, YOU may one day post something here, on your twitter, blog, or facebook that upsets someone else, and get punched in the face, and then others will laugh saying “you deserved it.” Would you want that to happen to you?

    I wouldn’t want to see any of my FOF-pals get hurt!

  10. Alfonzo says:

    You mentioned a Commodore 64K. I had one of those when I was a kid. And you’re right, the only thing it was good for was playing games.

    Also, the story about the Rugby player, it was rugby. Australian Rules football is much more similar to American football, except they don’t wear pads and their uniforms look much more gay (i.e. tight and sleeveless jerseys, short shorts).

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