Gay is not good, it’s fabulous! Although the sentiment of the late great Harvey Milk rings true for many people, we don’t always get a warm embrace from our families.
Today we’re taking a look at our love hate relationship with our families and how they both mentally and physically impact our lives. Why is there so much sexual diversity not just in people but all over the animal kingdom?
Listen as we share some of your heart touching stories and offer some perspective on what to do once you’ve come out to your family.
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great show! made me think of a lot. i get along well with my siblings, just one brother (i’m the youngest of 5) asks some annoying questions, but nothing discriminatory. another brother said the nicest thing to me when i came out to him: “OK… all i’m sad about is that I can’t give you any relationship advise our brothers passed down to me.” i thought that was really sweet. my parents just ignore the fact i’m gay, which can be frustrating; especially, since my sister is also gay.
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http://www.amazon.com/Ties-That-Bind-Homophobia-Consequences/dp/1595584803/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1282408058&sr=8-3
i have only one sibling, my older brother, and he is also gay. it’s really strange because we are actually not close that close and rarely talk these days. it made it extra hard for me to come out to my parents because i was also telling them that both their kids were gay. my brother came out to my parents a few years before i did, but none of them acknowledged to me that they had had that conversation, so it made me feel that it was a subject we couldn’t talk about. once i was preparing to come out, i found out that my parents had known my brother was gay for years and never mentioned it to me. on top of it all, i asked my brother to be present and support me when i came out and he refused to. of course my parents already knew, but it was really hard on my mom who felt that she would not have grandchildren (though i really want to have kids one day). however, over the past year ive been really trying to reach out to my brother and parents and share more of my gay life, especially now that ive been in a serious relationship for over a year now.
A really interesting book i recommend is “Ties That Bind: Familial Homophobia and Its Consequences” by Sarah Schulman. It really helps one to understand homophobia and hetero-privilege in families and lays it out pretty clear in a way not really state as bluntly before. However, the author is a little crazy with a definite chip on her shoulder with the last few chapters of the book devoted to bitching about no one producing her lesbian plays…..
This week I could finally watch the movie “Do Começo ao Fim (From Beginning To The End”.
It is about the love between two step-brothers. The movie is not that good, but I think it is still worth a watch.
I have two older brothers, about the same age as Fausto and Marc, both straight. With both I have a good relationship, especially the second oldest. I have never told them about me till one of my brothers found about me being gay last year. His reaction was really positive, first he told me that he had gone out to drink some beers to think about it when he had found out and then he told me “Don’t worry, nothing will change, you are my brother and I love you no matter what”. I started to cry, he hugged me and since then our relationship is even better. I also have a good relationship with parents, I always visit them at least every months but it can be difficult because they are quite conservative and I still haven’t told them directly. I mean my ex bf and I visited them several times together and I am very sure my mother noticed that he is not only a friend of my. She also noticed how upset or even depressed I was when I broke up with him after 3 years. She didn’t ask any questions but I could see in her eyes that she knew.
Maybe I would have come out to my parents already but they are conservative, particular my father. He has is own company, knows what he wants and can be very stubborn. At the same time he is very very generous,giving and does everything for his family. Maybe I will tell him one day when I have a serious relationship again, when I feel the time is right. Right now I don’t want to.
Churchy McChurch is always such a judgmental bitch. I just hate her.