FOF #1334 – I Think My 4 Year Old Son Is Gay
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Today we’re talk to C.J.’s mom who writes the blog, Raising my Rainbow where she anonymously shares her story about raising her 4 year old son C.J. who she thinks he might be gay.
Listen as C.J.’s mom shares with us the messages she’s gotten from thousands of people from all around the world for being a mom who supports her kids to be whoever they want to be.
FOFA #1334 – I Think My 4 Year Old Son Is Gay – 02.24.11
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I wish we had the web when i was a young’n!! huggz
Better late than never!
I didn’t think about this yet, but there is a Belgian movie that is very interesting concerning parenting of boys that like dressing like girls or playing with dolls.
By Alain Berliner “Ma vie en rose” (My life in Pink) a very inspiring movie where the parents have lot of problems accepting the situation and to deal with neighbors.
Can be found On Amazon here: http://www.amazon.com/Life-Pink-Vie-Rose-All-regions/dp/B000N4I424/ref=sr_1_3?ie=UTF8&qid=1298554466&sr=8-3
You can get this via Netflix too if you’re in the US. Very good movie!!!!
that was a really nice show, what an awesome mom for letting her kid be who he wants to be!!! Reading some of the comments haters makes, like this one person threatening, to call child services on her is sickening, wtf is wrong with people….I remember when I was a little girl..I did have some dolls..maybe a couple barbies if I can remember correctly, and had a HUGE My Little Pony collection, but my fave toys were toys more geared towards boys like legos, Playmobil, and dinosaur action figures…I don’t think my parents really cared…..I mean in all seriousness I’d probably be better off if I was born a man, but being a woman isn’t life-ruining enough for me to want to do a f to m transition.
and as for the whole Target boycott situation, I dunno, even tho its run by bad people, Target does sell stuff for a lot cheaper, and has a pretty large inventory of stuff. I do however, refuse to shop at Wal-MART.. and K-Marts I thought were closing everywhere..I dunno if there are any open here in Austin anymore. SO YEAH, I still shop at Target wanna fight about it? j/k j/k I don’t even go there too often cos the closest one is like 20 mins away from my house so I usually just buy stuff elsewhere….
I can understand boycotting locally owned places, like Pet-shops that buy from puppy mills, because a boycott could really hurt their business then , but boycotting Target that has thousands of stores across the entire U.S.? It seems kinda pointless to me *shrug*
I don’t even see it as a boycott really. I don’t like how they do business and this whole affair smells rotten to me, so I’ll just get my toothpaste someplace else. No big deal.
Man, it is hard enough being a mom when your kid is considered “normal”. The slightest deviation from that and you get hellfire and damnation rained upon you. I really feel for Alice, and think she’s doing the right thing.
This is probably one of the BEST interviews you’ve done – and I think it will bring a bigger audience to you, as well as to the mother’s blog. And then to give us a one-two punch with – not a rerun, but ANOTHER Shirley Phelps interview!
Great job, guys.
I wish I had had a mom like C.J.
Wonderful interview! There should be more parents like C.J.’s mom and do not care if their kids are gay or transgendered. There are already enough damaged people out there because they were not accepted by their parents. I hope Alice can inspire many other parents so our society becomes more accepting of variations in gender identity and sexual orientation.
This is a really touching interview and it represent my and i believe many people ideal of a society. If all parents are like this, just imagine what a difference will it make. I wish that kid and his brother is surviving all the hatred in the world though.
People are can be so cruel. Haters gonna hate! At what point do we accept this as just an expression of the individual, beautiful in all it’s shades and nuances.
Terrific interview! What an amazing mom. C.J. is very lucky to have such an amazing mother. She is so open to letting her children explore their interests, while keeping them safe. As a father of two older kids, I think she is doing all the right things. It’s important to expose your children to a lot of different opportunities to see what each child is drawn to.. Then you support and nurture their interests. And they will change over time. As his mom understands, C.J. has a lot of developing to do before the question of whether he is or is not gay will be answered. And it wont matter then what toys he played with as a child. But it will matter greatly how open and accepting his parents are and how they have supported him.
Drew
We certainly live in very different times. I’m not sure if as a gay teen I would have appreciated my mom blogging about me as a baby, but I guess its the 21st century equivalent of taking baby photos!
http://jezebel.com/#!5349448/when-is-it-okay-to-write-about-your-family
There’s always the possibility that writing about your children will bring about resentment later, definitely if it’s regarding something really painful and private like memoirist Julie Myerson writing about her son’s drug problems.
I’ve heard about mom bloggers catching flak for posting their kids’ photos, which is sort of understandable, but also for writing about their kids in any capacity as a potential invasion of privacy. I think if measures are taken, like pseudonyms and obscuring facts like “Alice” is doing, it’s not bad. It’s inspiring to people and I think can help the family as the mother has somewhere to collect and express her thoughts. Beats taking Valium!
I have all kinds of mixed feelings about these kinds of blogs (and feature articles). I appreciate the dialog they’ve created and the stories honestly chokes me up. But at the same time it raises a lot of issues about the privacy of the child. I appreciate that C.J.’s mom is taking so precautions to guard her son’s identity. (Did she slip and use her real name at the beginning of the show around 2:20?)
I was also surprised by how uncomfortable the idea of letting a little boy go out in a dress or with a Barbie made me, even though I’m not butch and I played dress-up and with “girl” toys as a kid. I admire her and her family’s bravery and open-mindedness. They’re not just working to make the world more accepting, they’re making it more loving.
Also totally agree with you about Target. They’re still meddling in politics in ways that are totally shady. Great point about working for a country where they don’t need to be recognized for being exceptionally good to their gay employees.
No that was her fake names we came up with beforehand.
Yeah– the whole thing 500k from Target from Lady Gaga was just a ploy to overcome the huge negtative public reaction they took for their donations. Mind you, I don’ think they said they wouldn’t donate to any haters in the future.
I can’t believe you guys let her say her name accidentally in the interview and kept it! Right at the beginning where Fausto accidentally says it, she says it too.. that is, if that is her real name..
it’s a joke.
I listened to this on the bus and came straight to my office to comment!! M & F, this was a great interview! I am so impressed with CJ’s mom and her brutal honesty. I am amazed that she can be so open and vividly real. I am not a parent, but if I ever am, I hope I have her strength, courage and luck. I’d love to have a son like hers. I think that if my parents were to have had her as a resource, or at least to have had her blog, they might have had an easier time with my brother and I. Luckily we turned out pretty good (I am a gay and completely out teacher).
Thank you all so much for bringing this to the show. Very well done.