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		<title>FOFA #298 &#8211; The Joy of The Wet Spots &#8211; 07.06.10</title>
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<p>Cass King and John Woods first started dating</a> under the pretense of wanting to collaborate musically. The first year the couple met, they spent mostly discovering each other in BED.</p>
<p>The now married polyamorous couple turned their love for each other, sex and music into a superb act called <a href="http://www.wetspotsmusic.net/" target="_blank">The Wet Spots.</a> Think of them as the sex-ed class you never had but should have had, reincarnated as a jazzy cabaret musical show. </p>
<p>Check out this <a href="http://www.goodiebag.tv/video/do_you_take_it.htm" target="_blank">hilarious video</a> of their song &#8220;Do You Take It in the Ass?&#8221;</p>
<p>The Wet Spots&#8217; music seems to be a delightful fusion of &#8220;Exotica&#8221; (post-World War Two Polynesian influenced lounge music), Cabaret, rock, and lots of sexy lyrics thrown in for good measure. This polyamorous couple bring in influences of <a href="http://click.linksynergy.com/fs-bin/stat?id=DxwnIg2Hrtw&#038;offerid=78941&#038;type=3&#038;subid=0&#038;tmpid=1826&#038;RD_PARM1=http%253A%252F%252Fphobos.apple.com%252FWebObjects%252FMZStore.woa%252Fwa%252FviewAlbum%253Fs%253D143441%2526i%253D65071589%2526id%253D65072227%2526partnerId%253D30">Martin Denny,</a> <a href="http://click.linksynergy.com/fs-bin/stat?id=DxwnIg2Hrtw&#038;offerid=78941&#038;type=3&#038;subid=0&#038;tmpid=1826&#038;RD_PARM1=http%253A%252F%252Fphobos.apple.com%252FWebObjects%252FMZStore.woa%252Fwa%252FviewAlbum%253Fs%253D143441%2526i%253D77940642%2526id%253D77940674%2526partnerId%253D30">Yma Summac,</a> <a href="http://click.linksynergy.com/fs-bin/stat?id=DxwnIg2Hrtw&#038;offerid=78941&#038;type=3&#038;subid=0&#038;tmpid=1826&#038;RD_PARM1=http%253A%252F%252Fphobos.apple.com%252FWebObjects%252FMZStore.woa%252Fwa%252FviewAlbum%253Fs%253D143441%2526i%253D173544%2526id%253D173636%2526partnerId%253D30">Esquivel</a> and <a href="http://click.linksynergy.com/fs-bin/stat?id=DxwnIg2Hrtw&#038;offerid=78941&#038;type=3&#038;subid=0&#038;tmpid=1826&#038;RD_PARM1=http%253A%252F%252Fphobos.apple.com%252FWebObjects%252FMZStore.woa%252Fwa%252FviewAlbum%253Fs%253D143441%2526i%253D125378229%2526id%253D125378208%2526partnerId%253D30">Perez Prado</a> into one hypnotic, entrancing, hilarious show about sex education.</p>
<p>Listen to today&#8217;s show as Marc and Fausto hang out in their swinging pad with these cool cats and talk about their show, taking it up the backside, how they met, bisexuality, polyamory, religion as a disease, why acid and syphyllus are making a big comeback, and why embracing sexuality in all its rich and colorful forms is so important (and fun.) Thanks to fab listeners Bradford from Durham NC and Jim Leija from Michigan for turning us on to them!</p>
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		<title>FOFA #780 &#8211; Ménage à How Many? &#8211; 05.05.08</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 05 May 2009 07:19:11 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marc Felion</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[How many are in your party? For some people monogamy is just right, but for a growing number of people, open relationships is where they find true happiness. We are raised on fairy tales of...]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/feastoffools/2582588341/" title="Author Tristan Taormino on the Feast of Fools podcast by feastoffools, on Flickr"><img src="http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3044/2582588341_0bcaa4671c_m.jpg" align="right" class="alignright" width="240" height="240" alt="Author Tristan Taormino on the Feast of Fools podcast" /></a>How many are in your party? For some people monogamy is just right, but for a growing number of people, open relationships is where they find true happiness. </p>
<p>We are raised on fairy tales of a handsome prince rescuing a fair maiden and then they live happily ever after, but how close is this image to real life? </p>
<p>As gay people, we try to reinterpret that image of monogamous marriage in our fight for gay rights and marriage equality. There is even a new study that shows that GLBT youth want to be married and have kids by the age of 30.</p>
<p>How many people are truly satisfied by having one lover for their entire life?</p>
<p><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&#038;location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FOpening-Up-Creating-Sustaining-Relationships%2Fdp%2F157344295X%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbooks%26qid%3D1213591420%26sr%3D8-1&#038;tag=feastoffools-20&#038;linkCode=ur2&#038;camp=1789&#038;creative=9325"><img src="http://www.feastoffun.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/06/tristan-opening-up.gif" align="left" width="100" height="155" alt="Tristan Taormino - Opening Up" class="alignleft" /></a><a href="http://www.puckerup.com/">Tristan Taormino,</a> award-winning author, columnist, pornographic film director joins us to talk about her new book <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&#038;location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FOpening-Up-Creating-Sustaining-Relationships%2Fdp%2F157344295X%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbooks%26qid%3D1213591420%26sr%3D8-1&#038;tag=feastoffools-20&#038;linkCode=ur2&#038;camp=1789&#038;creative=9325">Opening Up: A guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships.</a></p>
<p>Tristan studied over a hundred polyamorous people, in a  sort of Kinsey Report on non-manogamy. Tristan interviewed in person, over the phone and by email, people who were content and settled, and others who were at a crossroads in their relationships. </p>
<p>She discovered that all the people engaging in this lifestyle &#8220;exude an above-average level of sexual and emotional satisfaction -something that in my experience and observation seems to elude a lot of people.&#8221; </p>
<p><a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/feastoffools/2583486732/" title="Tristan Taormino loves her FOF t by feastoffools, on Flickr"><img src="http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3089/2583486732_30df9e4ac8_m.jpg" align="left" class="alignleft" width="240" height="160" alt="Tristan Taormino loves her FOF t" /></a>So how do you convince your wife to have a three way with the nanny, or the pool boy? </p>
<p>Well, it can be a very difficult topic to bring up because relationships are often viewed as sacred and  some people are not going to react well to even bringing the topic up. Tristan recommends you start slow and put little feelers out there to see if they are  the same wavelength. Of course, you have to make sure the person you are currently involved with has good self esteem otherwise you are in for a lot of trouble and soul searching.</p>
<p>Join us as we chat with Tristan about the tips and tricks on open relationships. We talk about how you design an open relationship, the pitfalls of an nonmonogmay, keeping it fresh five or ten years later and what to do if one person is kinky and they other is not.</p>
<p>There is a lot to take into consideration if you are going to turn your relationship into an open one. For example, what do you do if one person is attracted to it and the other isn&#8217;t? Is coming out as <em>polyamorous</em> like coming out of the gay closet? What do you do when someone reacts negatively to your identity? And what about the children, do the kids even care?</p>
<p>Tristan Toarmino is the niece of famous American author <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thomas_Pynchon">Thomas Pynchon,</a> so of course we just have to ask her what he thinks of her work.</p>
<p>Take a dip in our jacuzzi of love- Feast of Fools. </p>
<p>[Originally posted on 06.16.08]</p>
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		<itunes:subtitle>How many are in your party? For some people monogamy is just right, but for a growing number of people, open relationships is where they find true happiness. 
We are raised on fairy tales of a handsome prince rescuing a fair maiden and then they liv[...]</itunes:subtitle>
		<itunes:summary>How many are in your party? For some people monogamy is just right, but for a growing number of people, open relationships is where they find true happiness. 
We are raised on fairy tales of a handsome prince rescuing a fair maiden and then they live happily ever after, but how close is this image to real life? 
As gay people, we try to reinterpret that image of monogamous marriage in our fight for gay rights and marriage equality. There is even a new study that shows that GLBT youth want to be married and have kids by the age of 30.
How many people are truly satisfied by having one lover for their entire life?
Tristan Taormino, award-winning author, columnist, pornographic film director joins us to talk about her new book Opening Up: A guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships.
Tristan studied over a hundred polyamorous people, in a  sort of Kinsey Report on non-manogamy. Tristan interviewed in person, over the phone and by email, people who were content and settled, and others who were at a crossroads in their relationships. 
She discovered that all the people engaging in this lifestyle &#8220;exude an above-average level of sexual and emotional satisfaction -something that in my experience and observation seems to elude a lot of people.&#8221; 
So how do you convince your wife to have a three way with the nanny, or the pool boy? 
Well, it can be a very difficult topic to bring up because relationships are often viewed as sacred and  some people are not going to react well to even bringing the topic up. Tristan recommends you start slow and put little feelers out there to see if they are  the same wavelength. Of course, you have to make sure the person you are currently involved with has good self esteem otherwise you are in for a lot of trouble and soul searching.
Join us as we chat with Tristan about the tips and tricks on open relationships. We talk about how you design an open relationship, the pitfalls of an nonmonogmay, keeping it fresh five or ten years later and what to do if one person is kinky and they other is not.
There is a lot to take into consideration if you are going to turn your relationship into an open one. For example, what do you do if one person is attracted to it and the other isn&#8217;t? Is coming out as polyamorous like coming out of the gay closet? What do you do when someone reacts negatively to your identity? And what about the children, do the kids even care?
Tristan Toarmino is the niece of famous American author Thomas Pynchon, so of course we just have to ask her what he thinks of her work.
Take a dip in our jacuzzi of love- Feast of Fools. 
[Originally posted on 06.16.08]
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		<title>FOF #780 &#8211; Ménage à How Many? &#8211; 06.16.08</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 16 Jun 2008 07:03:02 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marc Felion</dc:creator>
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			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/feastoffools/2582588341/" title="Author Tristan Taormino on the Feast of Fools podcast by feastoffools, on Flickr"><img src="http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3044/2582588341_0bcaa4671c_m.jpg" align="right" class="alignright" width="240" height="240" alt="Author Tristan Taormino on the Feast of Fools podcast" /></a>How many are in your party? For some people monogamy is just right, but for a growing number of people, open relationships is where they find true happiness. </p>
<p>We are raised on fairy tales of a handsome prince rescuing a fair maiden and then they live happily ever after, but how close is this image to real life? </p>
<p>As gay people, we try to reinterpret that image of monogamous marriage in our fight for gay rights and marriage equality. There is even a new study that shows that GLBT youth want to be married and have kids by the age of 30.</p>
<p>How many people are truly satisfied by having one lover for their entire life?</p>
<p><a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&#038;location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FOpening-Up-Creating-Sustaining-Relationships%2Fdp%2F157344295X%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbooks%26qid%3D1213591420%26sr%3D8-1&#038;tag=feastoffools-20&#038;linkCode=ur2&#038;camp=1789&#038;creative=9325"><img src="http://www.feastoffun.com/wp-content/uploads/2008/06/tristan-opening-up.gif" align="left" width="100" height="155" alt="Tristan Taormino - Opening Up" class="alignleft" /></a><a href="http://www.puckerup.com/">Tristan Taormino,</a> award-winning author, columnist, pornographic film director joins us to talk about her new book <a href="http://www.amazon.com/gp/redirect.html?ie=UTF8&#038;location=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.amazon.com%2FOpening-Up-Creating-Sustaining-Relationships%2Fdp%2F157344295X%3Fie%3DUTF8%26s%3Dbooks%26qid%3D1213591420%26sr%3D8-1&#038;tag=feastoffools-20&#038;linkCode=ur2&#038;camp=1789&#038;creative=9325">Opening Up: A guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships.</a></p>
<p>Tristan studied over a hundred polyamorous people, in a  sort of Kinsey Report on non-manogamy. Tristan interviewed in person, over the phone and by email, people who were content and settled, and others who were at a crossroads in their relationships. </p>
<p>She discovered that all the people engaging in this lifestyle &#8220;exude an above-average level of sexual and emotional satisfaction -something that in my experience and observation seems to elude a lot of people.&#8221; </p>
<p><a href="http://www.flickr.com/photos/feastoffools/2583486732/" title="Tristan Taormino loves her FOF t by feastoffools, on Flickr"><img src="http://farm4.static.flickr.com/3089/2583486732_30df9e4ac8_m.jpg" align="left" class="alignleft" width="240" height="160" alt="Tristan Taormino loves her FOF t" /></a>So how do you convince your wife to have a three way with the nanny, or the pool boy? </p>
<p>Well, it can be a very difficult topic to bring up because relationships are often viewed as sacred and  some people are not going to react well to even bringing the topic up. Tristan recommends you start slow and put little feelers out there to see if they are  the same wavelength. Of course, you have to make sure the person you are currently involved with has good self esteem otherwise you are in for a lot of trouble and soul searching.</p>
<p>Join us as we chat with Tristan about the tips and tricks on open relationships. We talk about how you design an open relationship, the pitfalls of an nonmonogmay, keeping it fresh five or ten years later and what to do if one person is kinky and they other is not.</p>
<p>There is a lot to take into consideration if you are going to turn your relationship into an open one. For example, what do you do if one person is attracted to it and the other isn&#8217;t? Is coming out as <em>polyamorous</em> like coming out of the gay closet? What do you do when someone reacts negatively to your identity? And what about the children, do the kids even care?</p>
<p>Tristan Toarmino is the niece of famous American author <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Thomas_Pynchon">Thomas Pynchon,</a> so of course we just have to ask her what he thinks of her work.</p>
<p>Take a dip in our jacuzzi of love- Feast of Fools. </p>
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		<itunes:summary>How many are in your party? For some people monogamy is just right, but for a growing number of people, open relationships is where they find true happiness. 
We are raised on fairy tales of a handsome prince rescuing a fair maiden and then they live happily ever after, but how close is this image to real life? 
As gay people, we try to reinterpret that image of monogamous marriage in our fight for gay rights and marriage equality. There is even a new study that shows that GLBT youth want to be married and have kids by the age of 30.
How many people are truly satisfied by having one lover for their entire life?
Tristan Taormino, award-winning author, columnist, pornographic film director joins us to talk about her new book Opening Up: A guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships.
Tristan studied over a hundred polyamorous people, in a  sort of Kinsey Report on non-manogamy. Tristan interviewed in person, over the phone and by email, people who were content and settled, and others who were at a crossroads in their relationships. 
She discovered that all the people engaging in this lifestyle &#8220;exude an above-average level of sexual and emotional satisfaction -something that in my experience and observation seems to elude a lot of people.&#8221; 
So how do you convince your wife to have a three way with the nanny, or the pool boy? 
Well, it can be a very difficult topic to bring up because relationships are often viewed as sacred and  some people are not going to react well to even bringing the topic up. Tristan recommends you start slow and put little feelers out there to see if they are  the same wavelength. Of course, you have to make sure the person you are currently involved with has good self esteem otherwise you are in for a lot of trouble and soul searching.
Join us as we chat with Tristan about the tips and tricks on open relationships. We talk about how you design an open relationship, the pitfalls of an nonmonogmay, keeping it fresh five or ten years later and what to do if one person is kinky and they other is not.
There is a lot to take into consideration if you are going to turn your relationship into an open one. For example, what do you do if one person is attracted to it and the other isn&#8217;t? Is coming out as polyamorous like coming out of the gay closet? What do you do when someone reacts negatively to your identity? And what about the children, do the kids even care?
Tristan Toarmino is the niece of famous American author Thomas Pynchon, so of course we just have to ask her what he thinks of her work.
Take a dip in our jacuzzi of love- Feast of Fools. 
Featured Book:
Opening Up: A guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships.
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