Watch Tim tell his story on his new show The Revolution about why he hasn’t had sex in 29 years. But I wonder what he means by sex? A lot of gay guys have different definitions of what sex is.

Of all the live podcast forums we’ve done with Lifelube, one of the best received was Tunnel of Love, where people probed deeply and asked anything they wanted from sex experts and doctors about their booty.

But as gay men, our sex lives are about a whole lot more than just butt love. A new gay sex study conducted by researchers at Indiana University and George Mason University had some interesting findings- most notably that butt sex isn’t as common as you think, that only 37.2% of participants claimed to have had anal intercourse as their last sexual activity.

What’s the most common sexual activity? Kissing: 74.5%. The second-most popular?: oral sex (72.7%), followed by partnered masturbation (68.4%).

Another interesting result of the study was that nearly 40% of guys said their behavior occurred with someone they were in a committed relationship with or at least dating.

As many colors are in the rainbow, our sex lives and desires are just as diverse and complicated in some very exiting ways.

Today we’re going to get our freak on and try to answer as many questions you have here and at home about sex.

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• Debby Herbenick – sex researcher and sex columnist for Time OUT Chicago.
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Rugby hunks Ben Cohen and Daniel Conn identify as straight men, but are they part of the ten percent who get it on with guys on occasion?

Although the words gay, straight and bi are useful terms for men to embrace their sexual orientations, they don’t always do a good job of describing the reality of the kind of sex all men have.

At times, some guys find themselves having sex with other men, not because they are in denial, but because they are attracted to the speed, taboo and the thrill of two guys getting it on.

Today we take a look at why straight men from time to time get jiggy with another guy.

Can you really seduce a straight man and if so how much beer do you have to bring to the party to make it happen?

The coziest bear claw bed ever.

Zachary Quinto is happy all the Star Trek fans have said live long and prosper for coming out as gay but does he think the sci-fi franchise is ready for a gay character?

Lesbian skeletons locked in embrace for all eternity

Gay vandalism claim in the suburbs of Chicago likely a hoax.

Do not follow the Megan Mullaly diet- she’s been shilling for junk food for 30 years.

And Matt Bomer has a hard time wearing a thong, just how hard?

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Do you remember were you were when we saw Madonna’s controversial video “Justify My Love” on the evening news? The video had been rejected by MTV because it showed Madonna kissing a woman, guys in drag and Madonna having multiple sex partners.

Pretty tame by today’s standards, the interview before the video aired shows Madonna arguing for self-expression, but what she was really arguing for is American’s struggle with embracing sexual diversity. Madonna is so cute the way she mispronounces “feminists.”

You know right after this interview she was ready to tell Forrest Sawyer to go fuck himself.

Have we come a long way, or is this conversation still happening elsewhere?

Here’s the video for Justify My Love, featuring the sizzling hot model/porn star Tony Ward. Remember when music videos ended in quotes, just in case we didn’t get the point?

Our weekly roundup of some of the hot news topics and clips from the podcast. If the Bachmanns think LGBT folks are barbarians, I say we start dressing up the part. Barbarians are hot!

Plus- What’s Scott Herman’s sex life really like, and what role do orgasms have in building muscle and fitness? Who says rich men on Wall Street don’t care about creating jobs? Amy Armstrong shares what it’s like hanging out with Bears on a gay cruise ship. And finally, what would you like to see Lady Gaga do next? The best answers will be read in a future video.

Monkeys in Africa have been observed cleaning their penises with a leaves after having sex. Not all monkeys do but enough of them do to make scientists take notice. They believe the males do it to check for signs of sexually transmitted disease or maybe to monitor some reproductive aspect of the females with whom they did the deed.

From now on my saying will be “But, is it as clean as a monkey’s dick?” Wait, I take that back.

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Bringing sexy back one podcast at a time. Marc Felion, Fausto Fernós - photo by Jason Smith, jasonsmith.com

Want to look hot? If you’re trying to capture the attention of someone who fancies masculinity, try not smiling so much.

A study, published by the American Psychological Association, showed pictures of people of the opposite sex to both men and women. Participants were then asked for their initial reactions on sexual attractiveness based on the expressions they saw. Turns out men like smiling women but women like men who don’t smile.

The problem with the study is they only took a look at people with regards to heterosexuality, leaving us to wonder, do gay men fancy men who brood and do lesbians fancy women who smile, like our hetero counterparts? And where do bi, trans and queer identifying folks fit in all this.

Join us as we take a look at sexyness and emotion. What gestures do we do to turn other people on?

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Armie Hammer, best known for playing the Winkevoss Twins in the Oscar winning film The Social Network has said there’s a lot of weird hype over his steamy kissing scene with Leonardo Di Caprio in the upcoming J Edgar Hoover film.

Marlo Thomas says Free To Be You and Me was a total flop because of teen homophobia and bullying.

Rainbow Flags all now the rage in Afghanistan

Clay Aiken finally wins American Idol.

Justin Beiber has a new smell.

and farewell to Oprah, who took her final bow in her final episode, marking the end of her 25-year daytime talk show with a tearful goodbye.

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Julia describes sex as a Sewage Treatment Plant next to an Amusement Park to her curious daughter.  Then, she introduces her daughter to internet porn.  Her daughter, Mulan, then extrapolates what gay sex must be like and explains it to her mother.  LOL  Finally, Mulan is completely stumped by lesbian sex and cannot figure that one out!!  LMAO!!!!!

Now that’s not my idea of a fun time but I appreciate the balls it takes to do something like that. Or is it madness?

Anyway, “puma” is French for “cougar,” but hen again, “puma” also means “puma” in English.

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Stuffed Rabbits Show How It's Done

“Sexual Nature” at the Natural History Museum explores the diverse ways in which animals have evolved to procreate, such as a snail’s love darts, the detachable penis of the paper nautilus, or the outsized testes of the promiscuous chimp.

The exhibition, which opens on Friday, also looks at human sexual behaviour in the context of other species.

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In related news- A stable hand at Arlington Park racetrack was sentenced to probation and sex offender counseling for having sexual contact with a horse.

Who doesn’t think Tosh ia little gay? To prove he’s not, he gathered up some of his workmates, popped soem Viagra and watched gay adult films for two hours to see what comes up. Watch to see who passed the test.

How many are in your party? For some people monogamy is just right, but for a growing number of people, open relationships is where they find true happiness.

We are raised on fairy tales of a handsome prince rescuing a fair maiden and then they live happily ever after, but how close is this image to real life?

As gay people, we try to reinterpret that image of monogamous marriage in our fight for gay rights and marriage equality. There is even a new study that shows that GLBT youth want to be married and have kids by the age of 30.

How many people are truly satisfied by having one lover for their entire life?

Tristan Taormino, award-winning author, columnist, pornographic film director joins us to talk about her new book “Opening Up: A guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships.”

Tristan studied over a hundred polyamorous people, in a sort of Kinsey Report on non-manogamy. Tristan interviewed in person, over the phone and by email, people who were content and settled, and others who were at a crossroads in their relationships.

She discovered that all the people engaging in this lifestyle “exude an above-average level of sexual and emotional satisfaction -something that in my experience and observation seems to elude a lot of people.”

So how do you convince your wife to have a three way with the nanny, or the pool boy?

Well, it can be a very difficult topic to bring up because relationships are often viewed as sacred and some people are not going to react well to even bringing the topic up. Tristan recommends you start slow and put little feelers out there to see if they are the same wavelength. Of course, you have to make sure the person you are currently involved with has good self esteem otherwise you are in for a lot of trouble and soul searching.

Join us as we chat with Tristan about the tips and tricks on open relationships. We talk about how you design an open relationship, the pitfalls of an nonmonogmay, keeping it fresh five or ten years later and what to do if one person is kinky and they other is not.

There is a lot to take into consideration if you are going to turn your relationship into an open one. For example, what do you do if one person is attracted to it and the other isn’t? Is coming out as polyamorous like coming out of the gay closet? What do you do when someone reacts negatively to your identity? And what about the children, do the kids even care?

Tristan Toarmino is the niece of famous American author Thomas Pynchon, so of course we just have to ask her what he thinks of her work.

Take a dip in our jacuzzi of love- Feast of Fools.

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Check out this gallery of Balloon Kama Sutra created by Anton Lobachev.

Also check out these hilarious videos:

Kama Balloon, episode 1

Kama Balloon Ep. 1 from Anton Lobachev on Vimeo.

Kama Balloon, episode 2

Kama Balloon Ep. 2 from Anton Lobachev on Vimeo.

Kama Balloon, episode 3

Kama Balloon Ep. 3 from Anton Lobachev on Vimeo.

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Karen Owen, a 22-year-old student of Duke University, North Carolina, detailed her exploits with 13 men, reports the Daily Telegraph.

She produced the unofficial ‘senior honours thesis’ on her flings as a joke to be shared with three close friends after she graduated in May.

But it was subsequently leaked to the university’s 14,000 student population before becoming a global viral hit.

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You’re in for a treat today as an old friend of ours, Tracy Tyler joins us to share our sexy sex stories of wild lust and abandon, with strange and funny results.

If you’re a long term listener, back when our show was called Feast of Fools, Tracy Tyler was one of our favorite guests and very popular with the listeners. Who can forget Tracy’s fantastic sex stories, as she shared her experience of being a transgendered woman living in the suburbs of Chicago?

We had a falling out with Tracy and haven’t seen each for over a year and a half. But now we’ve patched things up and are the best of friends again, and guess what? She’s back on today’s show to catch up from where she left off.

Join us a we share with you three terrific tales of sexual trysts and dates gone horribly wrong- Tracy’s gets caught being naughty at a tranny party in a banquet hall, Fausto’s unwelcome sexual safari at a taxidermist’ house in the heart of Texas and Marc’s frozen food date that ends in a Valentine’s Day Massacre.

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Who knew Canada and the U.S.A. are f*ck buddies?

– Thanks to Shizznit

Poppers, (not the fried, cheese filled jalapeno peppers) are small little bottles full of a volatile liquid like amyl nitrate or other stuff sold commercially as “air freshener” or “VCR head cleaner” and has been used for decades during sex by people looking to loosen themselves up and get jiggy with it. Its the sexy drug equivalent of huffing airplane model glue.

I’m always giggling at most sports bars and in the frozen food section of my supermarket whenever I see a box for cheese Poppers, whose ad slogan is “bring home the fun.” I’ll say.

How do they work? Amyl nitrite was originally used in medicine  in the early 1900s to counteract the effects of cyanide poisoning and was found to relax the smooth muscles in the body, mostly the anus and vagina.

In the 1970s poppers were popular not just in the bedroom but on the dance floor, and even the Al Pacino film “Cruising” shows him huffing a hankie covered with the fluid on the dance floor.

That’s Al huffing on a rag covered in poppers!

Poppers have a long history of abuse due to the rush of warm sensations and dizziness experienced when the vapors are inhaled. Most often, poppers are used recreationally by men who have sex with men as a sexual enhancer or by young substance abusers.

It also deprives the body of oxygen and heavy use can lead to nerve/brain damage. Plus the use of poppers has been associated with an increased risk of HIV infection. Fun times!

Although its illegal to sell them for human consumption, many gay clubs/bars, sex shops, drug paraphernalia head shops still sell them as “room deodorizers” although the smell isn’t something I’d consider pleasant.

If you’re still wanting to get a bottle, go ask film maker John Waters. In OUT magazine he told the interviewer that he’s not a “poppers pig” but he has a lifetime supply in his freezer.

“I made a giant bottle of Rush for my last art show, and the owner of the poppers company sent me a lifetime supply,” he confesses. “It’s really embarrassing ’cause I forget when people go to get ice and they see, like, a case of poppers.” He emulates an unsuspecting house guest recoiling in horror. “Oh, my God, he’s a poppers pig!” This picturesque expression prompts another tale. “My friend told me the worst story,” he says. “He went home with somebody that really was a poppers pig, who came out of the bedroom with a mask on that was hooked to a bottle of poppers so that he could give blowjobs and breathe poppers at the same time!” Waters laughs. “I’m afraid people think that’s what I am when they look in the freezer and don’t say anything.”

Take a gander at these women and see if you can match the lady to the number of lovers that she’s had in her life.

Here are the answers:

A) None
B) 1
C) 5
D) 25
E) 50
F) 5000

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According to Gizmodo iPhone users have twice as much sex as Android users. See the full article with graphs on the Gizmodo website.

While working at the library, I came across this book:

The Bottoming Book: How To Get Terrible Things Done To You By Wonderful People

Sounds hilarious! Definitely check it out. My posts will return the 26th.

Thanks Marsian for sending this rather unusual online Craigslist ad.

Singer Ricky Martin is writing his memoirs and finally coming clean about what everyone’s known for years- he’s gay.

From his website:

A few months ago I decided to write my memoirs, a project I knew was going to bring me closer to an amazing turning point in my life. From the moment I wrote the first phrase I was sure the book was the tool that was going to help me free myself from things I was carrying within me for a long time. Things that were too heavy for me to keep inside. Writing this account of my life, I got very close to my truth. And this is something worth celebrating.

For many years, there has been only one place where I am in touch with my emotions fearlessly and that’s the stage. Being on stage fills my soul in many ways, almost completely. It’s my vice. The music, the lights and the roar of the audience are elements that make me feel capable of anything. This rush of adrenaline is incredibly addictive. I don’t ever want to stop feeling these emotions. But it is serenity that brings me to where I’m at right now. An amazing emotional place of comprehension, reflection and enlightenment. At this moment I’m feeling the same freedom I usually feel only on stage, without a doubt, I need to share.

Many people told me: “Ricky it’s not important”, “it’s not worth it”, “all the years you’ve worked and everything you’ve built will collapse”, “many people in the world are not ready to accept your truth, your reality, your nature”. Because all this advice came from people who I love dearly, I decided to move on with my life not sharing with the world my entire truth. Allowing myself to be seduced by fear and insecurity became a self-fulfilling prophecy of sabotage. Today I take full responsibility for my decisions and my actions.

If someone asked me today, “Ricky, what are you afraid of?” I would answer “the blood that runs through the streets of countries at war…child slavery, terrorism…the cynicism of some people in positions of power, the misinterpretation of faith.” But fear of my truth? Not at all! On the contrary, It fills me with strength and courage. This is just what I need especially now that I am the father of two beautiful boys that are so full of light and who with their outlook teach me new things every day. To keep living as I did up until today would be to indirectly diminish the glow that my kids where born with. Enough is enough. This has to change. This was not supposed to happen 5 or 10 years ago, it is supposed to happen now. Today is my day, this is my time, and this is my moment.

These years in silence and reflection made me stronger and reminded me that acceptance has to come from within and that this kind of truth gives me the power to conquer emotions I didn’t even know existed.

What will happen from now on? It doesn’t matter. I can only focus on what’s happening to me in this moment. The word “happiness” takes on a new meaning for me as of today. It has been a very intense process. Every word that I write in this letter is born out of love, acceptance, detachment and real contentment. Writing this is a solid step towards my inner peace and vital part of my evolution.

I am proud to say that I am a fortunate homosexual man. I am very blessed to be who I am.

RM