Singer Ricky Martin is writing his memoirs and finally coming clean about what everyone’s known for years- he’s gay.
A few months ago I decided to write my memoirs, a project I knew was going to bring me closer to an amazing turning point in my life. From the moment I wrote the first phrase I was sure the book was the tool that was going to help me free myself from things I was carrying within me for a long time. Things that were too heavy for me to keep inside. Writing this account of my life, I got very close to my truth. And this is something worth celebrating.
For many years, there has been only one place where I am in touch with my emotions fearlessly and that’s the stage. Being on stage fills my soul in many ways, almost completely. It’s my vice. The music, the lights and the roar of the audience are elements that make me feel capable of anything. This rush of adrenaline is incredibly addictive. I don’t ever want to stop feeling these emotions. But it is serenity that brings me to where I’m at right now. An amazing emotional place of comprehension, reflection and enlightenment. At this moment I’m feeling the same freedom I usually feel only on stage, without a doubt, I need to share.
Many people told me: “Ricky it’s not important”, “it’s not worth it”, “all the years you’ve worked and everything you’ve built will collapse”, “many people in the world are not ready to accept your truth, your reality, your nature”. Because all this advice came from people who I love dearly, I decided to move on with my life not sharing with the world my entire truth. Allowing myself to be seduced by fear and insecurity became a self-fulfilling prophecy of sabotage. Today I take full responsibility for my decisions and my actions.
If someone asked me today, “Ricky, what are you afraid of?” I would answer “the blood that runs through the streets of countries at war…child slavery, terrorism…the cynicism of some people in positions of power, the misinterpretation of faith.” But fear of my truth? Not at all! On the contrary, It fills me with strength and courage. This is just what I need especially now that I am the father of two beautiful boys that are so full of light and who with their outlook teach me new things every day. To keep living as I did up until today would be to indirectly diminish the glow that my kids where born with. Enough is enough. This has to change. This was not supposed to happen 5 or 10 years ago, it is supposed to happen now. Today is my day, this is my time, and this is my moment.
These years in silence and reflection made me stronger and reminded me that acceptance has to come from within and that this kind of truth gives me the power to conquer emotions I didn’t even know existed.
What will happen from now on? It doesn’t matter. I can only focus on what’s happening to me in this moment. The word “happiness” takes on a new meaning for me as of today. It has been a very intense process. Every word that I write in this letter is born out of love, acceptance, detachment and real contentment. Writing this is a solid step towards my inner peace and vital part of my evolution.
I am proud to say that I am a fortunate homosexual man. I am very blessed to be who I am.
RM

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Comments
I’m so glad that he finally found it within himself to step into reality and be honest with himself and the world.
It’s about time! Now will he come clean with his REAL age? Um, he was in Menudo at the same time my sister’s friends dated guys from the band, which makes him 42 years old, not 39.
LOL. I was wondering who’d be the first to post on this here
I’m just glad he’s finally accepted himself.
Curtis posted it just before me so I deleted my entry but then when I read his title, I thought “that ain’t going to make it to the front of the site,” so I reposted it.
http://www.feastoffun.com/topics/people/2010/03/10/todays-least-surprising-headline-sean-hayes-is-gay/
Well at least he was a little more gracious to the gay community than Sean Hayes was.
I understand why some people are annoyed by celebs who take forever to finally come out. I feel that frustration too, because, I always thought, if they would just come out, they’d be visible to someone else who is struggling with it. However, I get tired of people demonizing them for choosing to do it on their own terms. None of us would have wanted to be outed or pushed out before we were ready– why should we expect that of someone in the public eye?
Sean Hayes’ coming out story read like he held a grudge, and maybe he does– but he did it, and it’s done. Ricky Martin’s coming out was much more gracious and eloquent. I was moved by what he wrote, and I think he did it right– with dignity and with bravery. I’m seeing that the overall response to his coming out is positive and supportive; but there are still those who can’t help but be nasty about it.
Just ask yourself: if the tables were turned, are you SURE you wouldn’t do the same thing?
I would have handled it like him. First make enough money and then come out.
Who is next? Maybe Enrique Iglesias?
I wouldn’t care how old he really was he is still sexy as hell and I would date him no matter what so kudos to you Ricky