FOF #2718 – Velvet Rage: Flaws in 3-D

Mar 13, 2019 · 2212 views

Damon L. Jacobs (center) next to Chicago’s Pride train. The L stands for love. Fausto Fernós, Damon L. Jacobs and Marc Felion, photo: Fausto Fernós.

Velvet Rage is one of the more popular books on gay liberation that looks at how the shame of growing up gay in a straight world can often express itself through anger, frustration or rage.

One of the big flaws of the book, despite all the great ideas presented, is that it misses out on the intersection of gender and sexual identity, and presents traditional, monogamous relationships as the ideal.

Today therapist and relationship expert Damon L Jacobs joins us to take a look at why some gay men get angry when they are challenged and why it’s so hard to draw strength from understanding our weaknesses.


Pan, vegan and pagan.

There’s a new PrEP pill working the corner and she’s looking to make some money.

How the Cher Show musical on Broadway changed from its original Chicago run.

Featured Books:
Damon L. Jacobs: Absolutely Shouldless: The Secret to Living the Stress-Free Life You Deserve

Alan Downs: The Velvet Rage: Overcoming the Pain of Growing Up Gay in a Straight Man’s World, Second Edition

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  2. Jim C says:

    Thank you guys for this show. While I enjoy all the talk about drag queens and Drag Race, it’s great to have different subject matter to listen to. I will take time to think of topics to share. I can understand it being difficult to keeping things fresh. Not that I’m bored, mind you. I love you guys. I just like the variety.

    Did I dig myself a grave here? I hope not.

    Love and Hugs.

    Jim C Minneapolis, MN

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